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chapter meeting hosted by Coach Lee

 reported by Coach Karen

The sharing tonight was so stimulating and enlightening as we ventured from our personal journey to coaching being.  Our exploration of the topic started by Coach Lee's awakening question, "Do you think you have given sufficient love to yourself?" as this is the ground for giving ourselves extremely care.

 Benny believes that our perspectives of our own value is one of the most important factors affecting whether we can truly love ourselves, which in turn determines if we can love others as well.  Karen found that the appreciation of pure existence allows her to turn attention from doing to being of which the foundation of self-love is.  Jasmine experienced that as we grow and reach certain cornerstone in life, we begin to re-examine if we are leading a life we desire and how we can love and care for ourselves more.

 Our discussion extended from the tangibles to the intangibles - of the things we can do to give ourselves more care to the inner essence we can connect with in giving us the strong foothold of our being.  We also had some exciting discovery and made distinction between concepts like 「理解」、「接納」, 「包容」、「寬容」, which envisioned us the frontier we can reach as we allow ourselves to grow and explore in our pathway.

 And how all of these related to coaching? Interestingly, as our sharing continued, we found that what client needs most from the coach is not the outcome of how he can deal with the problems in his life, but is the space in which he can allow his authentic self express.  Then how can we ensure a safe space and supportive relationship is available for the client?  That depends on the power of love and care we can give ourselves and others.

 As the chapter meeting ended, we felt so grateful that we had constructed such a supportive group that allowed us to grow and flourish together.  We agreed that every time joining our meeting is an act of our extremely self-care!

Intuition - chapter meeting hosted by Coach Benny

Intuition is a wonderful wisdom of life.  We were so curious to learn more about this topic as led by Coach Benny this night.  The curiosity, which also came from our intuition, had enabled us to discover the following interesting and inspiring concepts of this wisdom. 

Intuition can be categorized into two different major forms.  One is the messages we can directly perceive as we interact with the external environment that stimulates our senses.  Another one is induced by our inner world, which is often a result of our sharp awareness.  Sometimes, we may receive some "hints" from our mind or our bodies that something is going to happen or we should make certain decisions of an issue.  This is our inner awareness that allows us to acknowledge things through intuition instead of logical reasoning. 

However, we need to be conscious on the differences between "Intuition" & "Illusion" which is a tricky area that we may have experienced.  In brief, intuition is our instinctive knowing. It is the knowledge based on insight rather than on reasoning, yet it is not arisen in a vacuum or fascination.  Illusion, on the contrary, is the falsify fabrication that misleads us.  To distinguish the two, we need to be courageous and truthful in facing our authentic self.

Then how could we cultivate our intuition that empowers us to explore the unknown?  Some suggestions were brainstormed tonight:

·            Have regular meditation practices (can be in any form such as yoga and yen) which enhances our inner awareness;

·            Consciously use our gut.  Apart from breathing with chest, try to breathe with our abdomen everyday.  When we interact with people or confront an issue, try focusing our energy in the abdomen area and sense what message it gives us;

·            Go with the nature.  Simply explode ourselves in sunshine, waterfall, grassland...and let the universe teaches us;

·            Engage in regular exercise, our body movement stimulates our instinctive knowing and

·            Last but not least, be true to and trust ourselves.

Using effectively in coaching, intuition can assist us to build better rapport and have deeper understanding with our clients.  As a coach, how would you make the best use of your intuition to support the coachee?  And how would you check if your intuition is valid?

reported by Karen Au

We enjoyed very much the group coaching session led by Coach Susie as when we left the venue, we found one of the clues of Attraction is "the sense of Allowing".

Have you ever allow things happening as is?

Have you ever allow differences?

Have you ever allow your authentic self be exposed?

Have you ever allow whatever the outcome teaches?

What if your sense of Allowing becomes your unconsciouse competence?

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Exercise  used in the session:

Exercise 1

a)  What is not working in your life at this time?  List everything you can think of:

b)  Write the opposite from what is not working.   Write what you want.

Exercise 2

What have you been resisting in your life that's keeping you stuck?

Write about a difficult time you went through that you thought you'd never make it through, but now that you look back, you actually appreciate it for who it helped you become.

Exercise 3

What makes you feel most connected/aligned?  When did you have ecstasy?

Was it:

-                -  a religious experience

-                - a time in nature

-                 - feeling connection with a person or a pet

-                  - a feeling of appreciation for all that is

-                  - dancing

 Exercise 4

What types of feelings are hardest for you to allow?

If we allow our feelings to be there, they will diminish soon.  Then ask yourself, what do I really want in this situation?

Exercises devised by Teri Thomas (Attraction Coach and Teacher)

Coaches are life learners and love interactions.  This evening, 6 coaches came together to "JAM" with their supportive system.

Lee uses "Ask and the answer will be there" as her humble attitude in seeking support from others.  Coach Bonnie responded with curiousity, "How would you woven the supports together as an automatic system?"

Susie believes "The Law of Attraction" in building her supportive system and her attraction in sharing what she has learnt builds followers.  Susie will facilitate the next IAC HK Chapter meeting in April with the theme of "Attraction".

Intruition led us to the discussion on self-coaching.  Benny disocvers himself by clarifying his thoughts, emotions and energy within his inner self as a process of purification for knowing the unknown.

We understood "Be Still" is the best moment to retrieve our inner-resources.  We trust the unlimitated resources wihtin nurture our authentic intention to "Give and Give" .

 We came to the Chapter meeting by attraction and effortlessly got the support from each other through the process of group coaching each other.  We felt inspired and fulfilled when we left the Cafe. What a wonderful learning tonight.

In the Feb HK Chapter meeting, coaches decided to come together to speak out their 2009 Coaching goals and build the supportive system among them.

Here was the process for building a supportive system we have experienced.

• There required a high intention and attention to help us to raise our awareness in "Are we in need of a supportive system?"  We did and we found.  If there are no NEEDS, nothing will be initiated to happen.  If there are no awareness in the NEEDS, nothing will be inspired in our mind.
• Then, we experienced the process of OPENNESS.  It was not a leakage of openness but an authentically truth of openness = face our true self.  Thus, a pure TRUST led our flow of sharing.
• We learned to listen, to listen beyond the words, to listen the unspoken.  Sense of empathy embraced us in circle to trust our ownership of potential.
• We shared, we reflected, we questioned, we feedback, we championed, we clarified.......... let the inner self to speak its words.  There were no right and wrong, good and bad.  What matters are the expressiveness.
• Spoken out the NEEDS and it will be met, not by you, not by me but by the natural system of supportive system created by the group at PRESENCE.
• We were not looking for the answer or solution.  Instead, we got the wisdom of resources - our self-acceptance and self-assurance without judgmental.
• We see the possibilities of our greater self in organizing coaching workshops, receiving the deserved coaching fee, letting go the false self and focusing the goal of Certification.
•  Meeting was ended there but the supportive system evolved in to an synergized energy that embedded in each of our hearts with sustainable empowerment.

We have experienced the beauty of coaching and the art of trust that builds through the IAC Masteries.  Do you want to share with us?

• ICF/IAC Coaching, NLP Coaching and Tony Robin Coaching....do you see their difference? 
• Coaching, Counselling, Facilitation and Therapy.....................can you distinguish them?
• Coach who has no agenda vs hidden agenda..........................who inspires you?
• A well set coaching context vs a raw situation........................can you handle both?
• Coaching for business vs Coaching for passion.......................which goes first?
• Coaching profession has no competition in HK.......................do you believe?

Thanks Lee; IAC member who has recently passed Test 1 sharing on:

• coaching being to get a pass
• test structure
• time management
• strategy when comes to uncertain answer
• how to handle computer technical problem
• patterns of questions........

click here to listen (1 min)

For more information, please check the ChineseCertifiedCoach.com website

Since we have moved the meeting venue to the Pacific Coffee, we have less attendants.  Nevertheless, it did not affect the quality of the Chapter meeting as coaches who attended felt fulfilled and inspired.

Coach L. said, "The session was full of inter-action and intra-stimulation.  I was evoked to articulate The Meaning and Value of Code of Ethics towards every practising coach.  It should be the first lesson to learn before any coaching skill "

Coach B. added that "Code of Ethics is not usually taught in any coaching course in Hong Kong.  However, this session has highlighted The Importance and Essential of coaching ethics for every coaches for upholding their professional identification as a principle to provide valuable services towards the clients."

We have shared:

1. Where the law of the country in which the coach practices differs from the IAC Ethical Principles....

2. If the client brings up an issue that the coach thinks may be with a  therapeutic concern......

3. How to resolve conflicts with coaching clients ......

We simulate being a masterful coach is very similar to a masterful Tai Jei guru.  When a guru plays Tai jei, he does not need to count each step according to the text book, he plays as the flow is in which he integrates all the technique and subtle movements skillfully and mindfully in that particular unique moment. 

Bonnie encourages members to drill each mastery one by one.  Moreoever, it is also important to drill few masteries together to seeing how they enhance the empowerment for the client.

In the Jun chapter meeting, we have put M3, M4 and M5 together for an overview.  We have discovered that if we fully engaged in a high level of listening, we are in presence.  If we are in presence, our expression will be honest, authertic and best for the client's self-discovery and self-awareness. 

Therefore, grounding ourself before any coaching session is important for both the coach and the client.

We practised grounding together and we found that there are three level of ground:

Level 1 - we relax our BODY

Level 2 - we clear our MIND

Level 3 - we calm our SOUL

Which level of presence are you in now? 

Most people knows how to do the level 1 grounding.  Do you have any idea on how to step up to level 2 and 3?  One coach said, "Masterful coaching requires a life time to learn and practise." 

Time flies.....     Since the set up of the IAC HK Chapter in Oct 2007, we have altogether held 6 meetings.  In the May Chapter meeting, we have given us an opportunity to review what we have done and what we want to do in the second half of the year.

• we have consistent meeting attendants but the number of participants monthly is still considered as low. 
• we want to see the pool of attendants to increase, say one-fold double.
• the potential group could be Ive course and Gloria Hung course members..... said Lee
• we see there is opportunity to expand the meeting content from "examination and certification" to "Masteries Teaching Liscence"
• coaches who aim at attaining the IAC-CC designation by learning and ultizing the IAC Masteries are expected to have learned the basic coaching course.  Otherwise, it will be difficult for new comers to catch up the deep essence of the IAC Masteries.
• coach who has target to get certified by end of the year could consider to give presentation at the Chapter meetings.
• we decided to change the meeting venue from Central to the Pacific Coffee Palor located at the Festival Walk of Kowloon Tong with effect from June 2008 meeting.